My Story
In many ways, this work chose me. I was born in Los Angeles, California, into a queer family. I was a sexually curious being (as many youth are) and with a lack of education or awareness of my agency, body, or power, I found myself in dangerous and traumatic situations. It is a Violence that young girls are given no information about their bodies- and that their sexuality is supposed to form and contort around male desire. Craving an understanding of my body and my pleasure, I began looking for answers. The theatre became a makeshift church for me. Pouring my emotions into characters, trying to understand human behavior and love and sex and heartbreak. Feminism played a prolific role in my upbringing. Certain societal beliefs and the social construction of ‘the way things ought to be’ captivated my attention, my anger. When I went to college, I decided to double major in theatre and sociology with an emphasis on human sexuality. I had heard of one sex therapist back then (around 2013) and while I had no idea if it was an actual career- it felt clandestine to follow this thread.
Fate brought me to Paris, where I completed my undergraduate education- with a full emphasis on sexuality and psychology. I left my first love, the theatre, behind. I became fascinated by great female thinkers, by the breaking down of rigid societal structures, by sexuality, erotic material, people, relationships, love, heartbreak, orgasm, all of it… In reclamation, I started blogging about my sex life online. At the time it was my way of owning my sexuality- and giving others permission to do the same. Interviewing my peers and friends and strangers about good sex and bad sex and everything in between, my blog built a bit of a following in Paris.
After graduating, I moved to Australia, and was hired to work in the Australian Institute of Sexology and Sexual Medicine as a sexologist. Honing my skills in the area of women’s pleasure, female anatomy, and orgasm, I became an expert in anorgasmia and sexual desire. The truth of sexology work became undeniable to me– sex is never just about sex, and to be a great sexologist I needed a broader education in the mind, in psychology.
Returning to the USA, I started a Master’s program in psychotherapy. I also enrolled in a sex therapy certification problem. While I was in both those programs, I would see about 8 clients a week in the Australian sexology clinic (through zoom) and 8 or more of my own “sex coaching” clients. Collecting stories, gathering data, deepening my craft.
Six years into private practice, I am a product of my upbringing, my time abroad, my international clientele, my bachelor's degree in sexuality, my master's degree in psychotherapy, and my lived experience as a woman. What I am is hard to define- sex coach felt right for a very long time, but it did not quite grasp the depth of the work I was doing with clients. My work expands beyond sex- into joy, grief, family, work, food, authenticity, love, rage, creativity, pleasure, and eroticism. It is not one thing. Sexuality is and has always been my window into healing people- but the work expands beyond a limited conversation of sex positions or which lubes to buy. I look at sexual expression as a way of being- one that is grossly misunderstood in our overly objectifying and erotophobic culture.
I will lean on philosophy to explain what I can not:
“Eroticism has its own secrets and I am trying to probe them now. Would that be possible without first getting at the very core of existence?”
- From ‘Death and Eroticism’ by Georges Bataille.
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B.A. in Gender, Sexuality and Society with a minor in Psychology (cum laude) from the American University of Paris in Paris, France.
M.S. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and Marriage and Family Therapy from California State University Fullerton, in California.
Sex Therapy Certification from the Institute of Sexual Education and Enlightenment.
Counseling Service Award for Clarke’s “passion and knowledge for all things sex and sexuality, and for offering multiple workshops and class lectures during her time in the counseling department.”
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5 years clinical experience as a Sexologist in the Australian Institute of Sexology and Sexual Medicine (specialty in sexual pain conditions and anorgasmia) (200+ clients)
6 years in private practice as Clarke Rose (200+ international clients)
Ongoing guest lecturer at California State University Fullerton teaching the Sex Therapy classes to psychotherapy graduate students.
Retreat facilitator work in the areas of body, trauma, sex, gender, and liberation.
Led several workshops for university students at The American University of Paris and California State University Fullerton.
Led professional workshops in New York City (Forme Wellness) and California (with Margo Renata).
Completed graduate school psychotherapy hours at St. Mary’s Academy in Inglewood, California (as a counselor to girls aged 14-18) and at Orange Coast College (to college students aged 18 and up).
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Conducted a 50+ page qualitative research project looking into the reality of sexual satisfaction in long term relationships/marriages: “Sexuality Professionals’ Lived Experiences Using Psychosexual Therapy with Couples in Long-Term Relationships Experiencing Deficits in Sexual Satisfaction”
Conducted a 50+ page qualitative research project into the impact of mainstream pornography on women’s sexual satisfaction and agency: “Sex Deserves Better: Mainstream Pornography, Female Pleasure, and Women’s Sexual Agency”