WHAT I OFFER ~~

The Clarke Rose Method.

My method solves the discrepancy between regular therapy which examines most of the psyche but (often) misses the mark on exploring human sexuality, and sexuality coaching which is paramount but (often) lacking a foundation of psychotherapeutic understanding. Sex is my window into healing people, it is how I maneuver into the crux of someone’s being, to understand the most vulnerable parts that need healing. Sex is often the subject left out of therapy, the one place clients feel like they can’t go with their therapist. I see this as a detriment to therapeutic work- what is healing if not the full self being seen and witnessed, shame be damned

When I started in this field, my work was purely sexological. After 7 years of coaching work, and a Masters Degree in Psychotherapy, I now find that sex is the glue that holds my work together- but the work expands beyond the realm of sex (it must!). Sex is never just about sex. I delve into the client’s relationship to joy, eroticism, desire, sex, bodies, work, family, food, politics, and much, much more... I use sex as theory- I use it to illuminate a world of possibilities the client may not have seen before. Sex skills and life skills are synonyms of each other. I may help a client ask for what they want during a sexual experience, which helps the client feel confident communicating their sexual desires, in addition- they may also feel better equipped to ask for a raise at work. There is a life-changing quality to sexuality work. Who we are in life influences who we are sexually, and vice versa. Sexual empowerment is about knowing when you want to have sex and when you do not. There is power in this. 

Each client is different. Sometimes I practice case formulation from a life angle, figuring out what kind of food the client likes, what their relationship is like with rest, with a holistic focus on general wellness, and this helps them create a better sex life. Sometimes we go the other way - focusing on sexual anatomy, understanding desire, or reaching orgasm. And that work spills over into a happier life outside of the bedroom. My method has never felt like this or that, but rather a dance of dialectics, freedom, and authenticity. This work is an excavation of shame, an exploration of desire, and an unapologetic deep dive into joy. 

Put simply, while I am a certified sex therapist with a Masters in psychotherapy, I operate as a coach- offering people an exploration into the most vulnerable parts of their being, often including sexuality, relationships, and love of self and other. My coaching work is for those who want to focus on healing, sexuality, and a better understanding of how they relate to themselves, others, and their environment.